Saturday, October 10, 2015

Auto Biography of a Baby

Went through this post when I was surfing. Loved it. So just wanted to share. Its worth reading !!!!



 You and mom were unaware that a life sparked to existence the other day. Orgasm. That's what I was called and that's what you thought I was. I heard you and mom crying out in joy. I was happy for that. From then on, I chuckled whenever I heard more and more cries of joy. More and more orgasms, I thought.

I heard your friends praise you and mom, praise your years of indefatigable love. I came to know how wonderful a couple you were. I was proud of that.

When I was beginning to enjoy my anonymity, I heard some sad tales. I learnt how you were gifted by abandonment by your kith and kin against your love marriage. I came to know how lonely you were and how sadly you were starving for relationships. I am here
papa! I am here! I wanted to shout. I never wanted to see you cry.


I remember the day when mom visited the doctor for a minor check-up, only to know that a little life was safely resting in the warmness of her womb. 'You are pregnant!' the doctor said and she cried out in joy and disbelief! You hugged mom and thanked the Almighty with moist eyes.

From that moment, my anonymity was long gone and I was a celebrity attracting all your attention! Daily as soon as you were home, you would say a 'hi' to me by kissing mom on her stomach and would talk to me for sometime. More than mom, I used to await your arrival back home for your 'hi'! And with your 'hi' you made me your best friend. You were my best friend too, papa.

Relaxing myself in the cushion of the womb, I used to enjoy your mock arguments with mom over my gender! While mom wanted a boy, you were desperate for a girl, a girl who would look just like mom. Of course I am a girl papa! How can your best friend ever betray you??

And when the sonogram revealed that the life inside was of a girl's, you jumped in exaltation and victory. Jr. Yashi", that's how you used to call me, and I loved it. What better a pet name than assuming mom's name?? Again, you and mom would debate and quarrel over my real name. No wonder I never was bored inside the womb!

But I found the place inside the womb getting squeezed up day by day. I knew any slightest attempt for freedom might pain mom to death. But one day, I couldn't help but slid down mom's stomach and break free. I was born!!

'It's a girl!!' the nurse announced and only I knew the bounds of your joy coz it showed in your kiss you gave me and mom. Though my tender eyes couldn't see you, some strange force lifted my hand and my fingers clung to your finger, which you had held out for me.
It was my promise to you then, that I would hold your hand forever. You acknowledged my promise with your tears that fell on my forehead. I knew those tears were a result of years of longingness.

Your tears then, were my first showers papa!

When I opened my eyes fully for the first time, all I could see were wires and more wires. I thought I missed mother's womb. I wanted to see you and mom in all my desperation before something told me I wouldn't last long. How terrible it would be to miss the glimpse of my only friends??

Slowly but steadily, everything was blurring out, and I saw two figures running near me crying. I knew it were you and mom. It took my last ounce of energy to keep my eyes open till I could see both of you in all my limited clarity. But yippe I saw you! I saw my mom and dad. Guess how you both looked like?? You and mom appeared to be two fairies to me. Two fairies in a helpless cry though. The expectant look in your eyes said you still had a hope; and I felt I was the guiltiest soul on earth, about to kill the hope in the eyes of you and mom! God would never forgive me. You held out your finger to me but alas it was too late. 



Before I could lift the hand, everything faded out like a distant dream.

Who would ever want to miss life with such a wonderful mom and dad??
My friends here asked my name and I was endlessly happy when I told I was Jr.Yashi. I thought, in a way, I wouldn't have had the privilege of assuming that name had I lived any longer. My friends also discuss something about savoring mother's milk, swinging in the cradle, playing with their first toy, sleeping in mom's lap etc. And when they asked me what I enjoyed the most, I said I enjoyed your hi's the most papa. I said I enjoyed the love in my first showers. More than everything, I said I enjoyed being born to you and mom. What else matters to me my papa??

And what was my last wish do you know?? My only wish then was to know how I looked like. I knew how you would have loved to say I looked just like mom. Instead, you kept weeping and I wasn't sure I looked like mom. Did I?? Did I look like mom, papa??

I would get drenched in your love whenever you shed tears for me. Every time you say a 'Miss you' from down there, it's an 'I love you' to me up here. I want to say I love you too, but I miss my voice. I want to shout from here that I love you both; but alas my vocal chord was muted.

I knew I broke my promise of holding your hand forever. But papa, I never knew my 'forever' would be so very momentary, like a passing cloud.

God here actually granted me to be reborn to someone else. But I said I would wait for a lifetime to be born only to you and mom. If I have another life, it would only be with you and mom.

Won't I ever get a second chance papa?? Because I miss you. I miss mom.

Oh Papa! I miss my life.

The End







A distant dream

Not sure, when I decided to pursue my research studies. I think its sometime between mid Feb that I was going through various university websites, professor's profiles, and eligibility criteria to apply for the course. Meanwhile, I quit my work and relocated to home town in a hope that I would be pursuing my doctoral programme. With a random dotted knowledge of research studies, I contacted a professor of a university who disappointed me with a negative answer. 

I had no clue how am I going to take it forward. Every time when I decide something and boast about it, I end up not holding it. It will just pass through my life and will not stay with me. PhD is also one of that kind which  gave disappointments in the initial stage. 

I received a phone call from my friend, that a university has vacancy for PhD research scholars in Journalism and Mass Communication Department. The next minute I rang the head of the department to find out if I could be admitted. His answers again did not please me. I felt disappointed. I went through the university profile again to check if there are any known or related faces in faculty profile. And I found this faculty's profile to be somewhat matching with the religion. I immediately called him up. He was the one who gave hopes that I can and will do PhD and he will help me in admitting at the university. He directed me to a lady guide and made sure she accepts me. 

With no further delay, myself and my dad came to university to meet her. A senior research scholar of the guide welcomed and she gave all hopes to do PhD and I was almost selected for the programme. My dad said not to miss the chance. I discussed her about my topic, she nodded yes and we left then. I filled the application and sent it. In between, mam called asking to write a detail proposal on the topic and I did do. 

On July 9th, Myself, bro and dad drove towards university early morning to check hostel and meet ma'am again. It was purely God's grace that I immediately got admission in hostel also in spite of me not having an admission form or college Id. Paid my fees and left campus. A sigh of relief.

On July 15th I joined in the department under my guide. The other side, my friend who informed me about the university joined M.Phil under the same guide. And we sat next to each other.

On 10th October, I  was officially confirmed as a PhD candidate of the university with a formal entrance exam and an interview with a panel of five. The same friend brought juice to cheer me up for attending the interview.

With all the excitement, and witnessing the distant dream is just happening in front of my eyes, I'm thankful to the Lord Almighty for all his grace and wisdom that still keeps me happy.

Lord, the way you have blessed my life is more than I deserve. 

Will be holding a doctorate degree and my dream of signing in green ink will be accomplished hopefully soon. 

Gladious Ranjini
PhD Research Scholar
Periyar University

Under the Supervision of 
Dr.M.Anuradha

The faculty who helped me - Mr.Vimal
Head of the Department - Dr.M.Natarajan
The senior scholar who welcomed me - Ms.Shanthi
The friend is Akilah, who else it would be :)